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Christian sex secrets revealed
Saturday, October 11th, 2008Nerds and Sex. There’s a Trend.
Wednesday, October 8th, 2008So girls with any intellect have always thought that while the quarterback is drool worthy, the captain of the chess team was by far more date worthy if there was ever any hope for a conversation. Finally, science proves that women really aren’t as shallow as everyone seems to think. Albeit, we still would probably pick Mr. Muscles for a one night stand, but intelligence is definitely making a come back. And why not? Trying to talk to an attractive dim wit gets old after he asks you to explain the meaning of every word over two syllables. Suddenly he loses his appeal, and you want an excuse to run in the opposite direction. Or when they can’t seem to follow you. When you mention the word science or politics and they think of a monkey named George…well they weren’t too far off.
The article is about a research study showing that women are obviously more attracted to men with intelligence than stupidity. Who would have ever thought, huh? I mean, they have to be good for something other than opening pickle jars.Biologically speaking, this is because the intelligent man would have better luck with helping a family survive. Not to mention passing those smart genes down to future offspring.
Personally, I’m drawn to geeks and nerds. When a guy can “use big words” and make a logical point based on facts, my heart melts. Being able to discuss things in science, politics, literature, art, anything that would make my brain work seems to produce more oxytocin than if we had spent the past hour in bed. This is especially if they can manage to kick my ass on Counter Strike or Halo, or any RPG or RTS for that matter. And being a fan of Star Wars or at least another awsome science fiction show/movie. That’s what this nerd looks for, a fellow nerd who can discuss intellectual topics just as well as he can wield a controler or mouse.
Secular Marriage
Thursday, September 4th, 2008At 29 I am uncharacteristically ancient for an Edger writer.
I have done a few things the average college student has not done yet, but is likely to do in the future. One of these things is marry and divorce.
That’s right, the average college student is likely to divorce. The likelihood of divorce, in the United States at least, seems to hover around 50%. This makes every marriage somewhat like a coin toss.
According to evolutionary psychologist David M. Buss there are universal gender differences between what seems to attract men to women, and women to men. Men tend to prefer women who are youthful looking, and place emphasis on appearance. Women, in contrast, will place the emphasis on a man’s resources or potential for resources. These controversial gender differences have been identified by Buss and his collaborators in countless cultures.
Furthermore, the data imply that men are far more sexually demanding than women. To clarify this means that men want sex more often and with more partners.
This seems to imply that women and men are driven towards each other for completely different reasons individually, and for no other reason universally other than to reproduce.
If these impulses are programmed into us by evolution, and with built-in conflicts of interests, why get married?
My own philosophical musings lead me to ponder that men and women are both humans only transiently on this mortal coil with no greater purpose to be had yet with tremendous drive to reproduce given to us by nature.
If this is true why get married?
An answer often given is “because we are in love.”
Falling in love is advertised throughout western culture, but what is it to fall in love?
I have heard “falling in love” described as though it where some transcendental force which possesses two people and pulls on them as if they had puppet strings to do heroic things.
What hogwash!
The whole concept of romantic love has also been largely shaped in the west by Christianity. Different sects have different approaches, but in my own Charismatic background we were all encouraged to “get a word from God” in a delusional vision quest to find our wives. The doctrine was that everybody’s amorous consort had been predestined by God and was a perfect fit.
This seems to have some parallel with the belief of the ancient Greeks who thought that humans had once existed as a pair per organism, and we were all searching for that ancient part of ourself in each other.
These ideas may be beautiful, but they seem to be little more than stories. The only destiny we have is the mindless determinism of nature, and that which we make for ourselves.
Neurochemically amorous love seems to consist of oxytocin for bonding, dopamine for the high feeling of having the other person around, and testosterone (for both males and females) gives us our sexual desire for one another.
At first glance the findings of neuroscience and evolutionary psychology may seem bleak compared to the romantic notions of the Hellenists and Charismatic Christians. Yet, if one accepts that our dilemma is that we are here without greater meaning and that our feelings are born from the chaos of nature for no other reason than reproduction, then one can take a more realistic approach to amorous love.
My own conclusions are that to exaggerate the power and importance of romantic love is nothing less than what Paul Kurtz called “the transcendental temptation.” Far better is it to make one’s own meaning based on what works, what doesn’t, and one’s own philosophical inquiry.
I enjoyed marriage, and can see how if it could be made to last it would be a worthy endeavour.
I also hold the rather traditional view that the best thing for marriage is amorous love.
Where I break with popular thought is my definition of amorous love. I believe that amorous love is two things in combination, each one able to exist without the other. The first is friendship, real friendship, Aristotelian friendship where you consider the other person’s interests more highly than your own. The second is sexual attraction.
And that’s it: friendship and fracking
There is no concept associated with amorous love that I can not find to be a worthy trait of a good and strong friendship, save sexual yearnings and indulgence.
Fracking stands on its own two feet just fine, as many who have no feelings of friendship for each other have found it in their hearts to assist their fellow humans in the eternal quest for orgasm.
However, I am not saying that one cannot frack one’s friends. In contrast, what I am saying is that a good marriage is when you frack the same friend for a lifetime.
So say we all.
Pledge Your Virginity to Your Father
Sunday, November 9th, 2008Purity Balls are making the world better, one father-daughter union at a time. On Monday night I watched a documentary at my mom’s place on purity balls. Although I’ve always had an aversion to the idea of abstinence until marriage, this was all just creepy. Apparently 1 in 6 girls pledges their virginity to their father. A thousand questions started to pop up in my head – what if their dad dies? Are they home free? How good is that first honeymoon sex? How can they know they’ve found a good relationship if they don’t know if the sex is satisfying? …etc.
The things the girls were saying were pretty repulsive like “I’ve chosen a higher standard in my life” and “I wouldn’t want to bring anything unhealthy into my body.” That unhealthy thing, being a relationship that is toxic. They even went as far as to compare a bad relationship, where someone suffers because of a broken heart…to cancer. Yes. Cancer. I guess I’ve had the equivalent of cancer. How can someone learn to deal with pain, develop a mature attitude toward love and compare different men/women in the world without…”shopping around” so to speak. Having a broken heart is a part of life. It happens. And I find it pretty insulting that I am living a lower standard of life because I’ve chosen to have sex before marriage. That’s just rude. -_-
There is a long line of events that has to happen before that cherry can be popped. First the girl has to let the male meet their father. Their father has to approve of the male. They have to group date with other people. Then all those group dating have to group date with their parents. Then the male has to ask the girls father for their hand in marriage. Then finally, on the wedding day… after the “i do”s…they can have their first kiss. These girls don’t even kiss before marriage. Their first kiss is at the alter, before God, their father and their family… pledging themselves to one another. I don’t know about everyone else, but it took me a lot of kissing to perfect it all. I’d hate for my wedding day kiss to be that awkward first kiss.
Besides the fact that this all seems somewhat perverted, incestual and against basic biological urges, I have a few other issues. The first in the notion that if a girl doesn’t have a father in her life, they she is going to be royally messed up as she’s growing up and when she is grown up. And more ridiculously, she won’t be able to form any sort of normal, healthy relationship. Most people know this, but for those who don’t, I was basically raised without a father. He died when I was 8, so my sister and I both didn’t have a father. …But guess what? I am in a normal, healthy, loving, nurturing and beautiful relationship. And my sister is too. I can see why not having a father figure in someones life might have them miss out on a few life experiences and might mess a few things up. However – the lack of a father does not lead to a slutty, mislead, screwed up young woman. And I’m sorry – but if I had to pledge my virginity to my father, that would mess me up in so many different ways than the loss of my father did.
I have some friends that took this purity vow.
Case one: she met a guy, dropped out of university 2 months later and married him within the next 6 months. They’re up for divorce after a year.
Case two: she met a guy and married him after 7 months and had 3 kids within the first 1/2 a year. she had to drop out of university and lives in poverty because niether of them can get a job.
Case three: they actually got pregnant before they were married and were thus ostracized from their church, family and circle of friends. her mother didn’t go to her wedding.
Case four: he met a young lady, and had to go on 5 dates with her father before he was allowed to take her on one date. again, they married within three months and divorced after less than 1.5 years.
My point – they get married too fast, they get confused, they get tangled up in this idea that for some reason because they’re not having sex in those first few months that it means they’ve gotten to know each other better than those who DO have sex…because instead of screwing they spend more time talking and getting to know one another. …But given the divorce rate that I’m seeing, rushing into marriage just to have sex isn’t really worth it. (or is it…? i guess it depends how much the wedding costs…)
These kids are getting married after dating for less than a year. They end up dropping out of university to start a family, but then get divorced after there is a kid involved so its hard to just go back to school and start your life where you left off. It’s scary.
And finally, the most screwed up thing that I heard on this documentary: if they date someone else, have sex with someone else or kiss someone else other than the person that they end up marrying it is cheating. It is breaking a 10 commandment – committing adultery. Because they are GOING to be married to that person in the future, they can’t kiss anyone else before they meet that person, because it would be cheating on the person they’ve never actually met and who may not actually exist – or who may be the person that they didn’t kiss and didn’t feel that incredibly “za za zoo” for. Sometimes an unexpected kiss can be the thing that opens your eyes to the beauty of a person.
But no, if you kiss another person, or love someone else before the one that you are destined to be with then you have given away parts of your heart. Parts of your heart that you can never get back, and thus when you get married and find “the one” you will be unable to give them all of your heart and all of your love because you’ve given some of it away already.
That is so. screwed. up. …And essentially what I would deem as child abuse, again. Fair enough that some of these girls are 18 – 25 years old. ..Fine. If they want to give the rights of their vagina to their father, let them. Its their loss. But there were girls as young as 4 – 12 at these things. Thats a scary age to be telling kids that by experimenting, dating and loving people before they are married is committing adultery and that they thus should pledge their life to their father. And let him be the one that she loves until he decides that shes met the right man. …ew.
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